Things I want to do

free concert... Take a bus to a small town just to spend a few hours exploring...... Order a pizza while you're at the beach.. . sew skirts......

Thursday, October 7, 2010

girls nite out!

                                              welcome ...  silent type-waitress had him speechless

                                   Authentic Polish and Traditional American Cuisine
                                             at the Krzysiak Family Restaurant.
                                                             http://krzysiaks.com/ 

                                                       friends   laughs and soooooo  yummy

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Facebook (1) | Morning Musing: Clowning Around

Facebook (1) | Morning Musing: Clowning Around


Morning Musing: Clowning Around

by The FlyLady on Monday, August 23, 2010 at 10:04am

What is it about clowns that scare some children? Yesterday I figured it out along with a dear friend. Their face tells a different story than what is in their heart. To a child's instincts they may seem to be hiding something. My dear friend suffered with serious child abuse. The abuser was her mother. To the world her mother seemed to be nurturing kind person, but behind closed doors she wore another face. She has nightmares about clowns and when the clown face is removed; it is her mother.

My mother was like that too. Everyone loved her. They didn't see the screaming rude vicious side of her. She put on a different face for them. Are you wearing a lot of different faces and your family can never tell who you are or who you are going to be. It is up to us to change this behavior and make our inside face match our outside face.

When we fall into the trap of perfectionism and pleasing others is when we feel the need to put on another mask. We don't have to protect ourselves any longer. A wounded animal will pretend to be healthy so it will not draw attention to the wound. Aren't we all wounded in some way or another? We don't want anyone to see our pain or our imperfections. We might get in trouble. My dear friend said something yesterday that was so profound that I have to share it with you. Here is what she said to me in an instant message.

There are wounded caregivers that pass on those wounds to their children; what was done to them will in some way be used to be done to you. The first line of their strategy is to mold our self-concept to suit their wounded needs, but we don't know they are wounded. They are where we learn everything..........we love them, we trust them even when they hurt us.

As children we can't afford to know that our very means of survival is wounded so we internalize the blame and incorporate it into our self-concept. Without knowing it, we are using a survival mechanism. It's safer to think that there are things wrong with us, than things wrong with our means of survival without realizing it, these get formed into our self-concept.

Our inner dialog parrots this back to us. We take our inner dialog as the guidance it was created to be, but we were never taught that any of it was corrupted! We follow it like it is all facts and God's word. Even when we get more worldly and learn that all that was done to us, taught to us isn't necessarily true. We were never taught how to "evaluate" the ongoing stream of inner dialog to guide us. It never occurred to us that part of the maturing process is learning not only how to think for ourselves but how to edit our own thinking itself!!!

When she wrote this my mouth just hung open in the shock of how simple yet how true her words were. We came up with a simple technique to help her realize when her clownfaced mother was talking from the grave. We would drown out her words with a honking clown horn like Harpo Marks used to honk instead of talking. All of a sudden we started to laugh so hard. We really didn't have a horn, just the Yahoo image with the clownface and a horn. She began to hear and see her mother as the clownfaced fake that filled her head with negativity. She was deleting her negativity with the laughter and that made the fear go away.

We all have some skewed notions that have been put in our heads; starting with those perfectionism ones. When we can eliminate this Body Clutter from our brains we can begin to replace that corrupted programming with a new way of living our lives, loving ourselves and laughing at the funny things we do. We no longer have to live in shame thinking that someone is going to find out our dirty little secrets. I want for you what I have; peace. This peace came from replacing the negative programming with kind voices to love me!Are you ready to FLY and throw away that clown face that is haunting you?



Monday, August 23, 2010

Who Am I Meant to Be? - Oprah.com

Who Am I Meant to Be? - Oprah.com: "Forget your career. Forget your role as a mother or a wife. Forget how much money you make or how successful you are. If you're struggling with the question 'Who am I meant to be?', this quiz can help you figure out what really defines you. Based on personality science, I have identified seven 'striving styles,' modes of thought and behavior that direct us to seek satisfaction in different ways. Although everybody is wired with all seven styles, most people have one that dominates. When you engage this innate style, you've got the best shot at fulfilling your potential; when you don't, you can feel stuck.

After responding to the statements below, you will discover your striving style, learn what to do if it's backfiring from neglect, and find ideas to guide your life in the direction that it was meant to go."


my results......YOU ARE STRIVING TO BE SECURE
You are a stabilizer: You are the rock in a storm, the one others lean on. Loyal and com-mitted in your relationships, you maintain a support system of like-minded people whom you look out for. (So what if you do it behind the scenes and don't get credit?) You're careful with money, cherish the familiar, and defend the traditions you care about.

What to watch out for: Rapidly changing environments (like a shaky economy) are very hard for you. As a result of such instability, you can spiral into a state where everything seems catastrophic and you're sure life will only get worse. You can also become overcontrolling, rejecting any suggestion that doesn't conform to your idea of the way things should be. To avoid being too rigid, each month try changing one habit. Exper-iment with clothes, drive a different way to work, initiate conversations about subjects you wouldn't normally discuss. And when the opportunity arises to do something new, avoid the impulse to immediately say no—this may be nerve-racking, but the more you practice, the less anxious you'll feel.

Looking ahead: You find meaning in pursuing safety and certainty. Focusing on family can give you great satisfaction. Also consider planting a vegetable garden, hosting class reunions, volunteering as a lifeguard, teaching at your church or temple. In the work arena, look for positions where you're responsible for others, and for making sure everyone is following the rules. You work well in any environment that is stable and consistent. Careers in government, finance, the military, law enforcement, and product manufacturing are strong options for you.


Find careers that match your striving style.

YOUR SCORES
Many people have two or three strong striving styles, and they can all be important in leading you to the person you are meant to be. If you have a few "highest" scores, read each matching description, and see what rings most true.

Striving to help: 11
Striving to be recognized: 13
Striving to be creative: 15
Striving to be spontaneous: 13
Striving to be knowledgeable: 15
Striving to be secure: 16
Striving to be in control: 13

STRIVING TO HELP
You scored: 11

You are a nurturer: You are caring and supportive in your personal relationships as well as in your job. Unselfish and altruistic by nature, you often anticipate the needs of those around you before they are aware of them. If there is one thing that brings you satisfaction, it's tending to others.

What to watch out for: When you're doing things for people only to feel valued, you can become resentful. And if you sense that your help is not appreciated, you may end up playing the martyr. So before giving your time to everyone else, make sure to take care of yourself (physically, emotionally, and spiritually). And practice waiting until someone asks for help: While you may be able to perceive what a person needs, that doesn't mean she wants you to attend to it.

Looking ahead: It's important for you to be genuinely of service in acknowledged ways. Whether you foster a child, care for an elderly aunt, rescue animals, or support a rock star's career as her personal assistant, look for opportunities where you can help other people or bigger causes. Volunteer work has your name written on it, as do many careers: nursing, teaching, customer service, healing, social work. Don't feel pressured to run the company or lead the project; you may be even more effective as someone's right hand. And you'll likely find working with other people more meaningful than flying solo.

Find careers that match your striving style.
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STRIVING TO BE RECOGNIZED
You scored: 13

You are an achiever: Ambitious, competitive, and hardworking: That's you. With a clear image of who you are, you work tirelessly to make sure your accomplishments are recognized. Your drive for success extends to your family, and you invest a lot of energy in helping them live up to your expectations. Thanks to your knack for diplomacy and abundant charisma, you often inspire others.

What to watch out for: You are prone to becoming a workaholic, slaving away toward success while neglecting your personal life. Because you're driven to gain approval, you can find yourself performing for others like an actor; if you become overly concerned with your image, you end up feeling superficial. To keep your ambition under control, get involved in group activities that require cooperation. Also practice listening to those around you and think about sharing the spotlight from time to time.

Looking ahead: Any career that allows you to scale the ranks and gain recognition, status, even material rewards, lights you up. Actress, entrepreneur, salesperson, politician—you get the picture. And consider balancing your professional challenges with personal ones: Run a 10K, train for a triathlon, compete in a tennis tournament, bike from one end of your state to the other; or join a debate team, play in a poker circle, enter your purebred spaniel in a dog show. Whenever you can win at something, you're happy.

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STRIVING TO BE CREATIVE
You scored:
15
You are an artist: You came out of the womb with a paintbrush in your hand. Or maybe it was a flute or a castanet or a fountain pen to go with your poet's imagination. The point is, you're an original, and you know it. Even if you don't have a singular gift, you're drawn to the arts—anything creative, for that matter—and you have a unique way of looking at the world. Your need for depth and authenticity in relationships can lead to both great joy and profound sorrow, depending on whether others reciprocate. You don't care so much about adapting to group or societal expectations; your independence and sharp intuition propel you on your own path.

What to watch out for: When fear of conformity overrides your creativity, you can assume the role of "outsider" or "orphan" and end up feeling alienated. You may even go so far as refusing to vote or pay taxes. This lone-wolf stance might be a defense against feeling vulnerable. Try to be aware that blaming others for your banishment, or pushing away those who want to get close, only makes things worse. Also, dramatizing your emotions can interfere with your creativity.

Looking ahead: As long as you genuinely express yourself, you feel like the person you were meant to be. How you do it is irrelevant. A chef or architect can be as much of an artist as a painter or sculptor. Many advertising and public relations executives are also highly imaginative. Beyond work, there are opportunities everywhere you look to coax out your inner artist: Design your own jewelry line, create an innovative blog, dream up a comic strip. Relationships are another avenue for self-expression.

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STRIVING TO BE SPONTANEOUS
You scored: 13

You are an adventurer: Action-oriented, curious, outgoing, and often technically gifted, you live for new experiences. You are drawn to risk-taking and aren't afraid to fail. Generally restless, you tend to job-hop or choose a field that offers constant novelty. If you had to name your favorite place, it might be the center of attention—you're a born entertainer, and can easily adapt to any audience. While you collect many acquaintances, you're less likely to develop deep, committed relationships.

What to watch out for: When you can't satisfy your thirst for variety and excitement, you may see yourself as trapped, which can lead to impulsive and self-destructive behavior—drinking, drugs, breaking off relationships, ditching financial responsibilities. Try to find value in some traditions; if you learn to appreciate repetitive experiences, you won't always feel the urge to bust free. And when a new opportunity thrills you, keep in mind that just because it sounds exciting, that doesn't mean it's good for you.

Looking ahead: Life will have meaning for you as long as you feel stimulated. That might mean chasing twisters, exploring the polar ice caps, getting a degree in dance therapy, or becoming an astronaut. It might also mean reading new books, attending workshops, or letting yourself get swept up in an intoxicating romance. As a risk-lover with a lot of energy, you're a natural entrepreneur. You'll be happiest if you change jobs every so often and travel extensively. Movement is what keeps you going.

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STRIVING TO BE KNOWLEDGEABLE
You scored: 15

You are an intellectual: As a leader, you're often ahead of your time. As an employee, you try to surpass the competence level of peers, even managers. Incisive and curious, you're driven to deeply understand how things work. But that's things, not people. Oh, your family and friends are important; it's just that you don't need to spend hours engaging with them. Social validation isn't your goal—you're secure enough in your cerebral pursuits.

What to watch out for: When you can't find a way to be the expert, you may withdraw or simply withhold information, which can make you seem smug or arrogant. If you feel yourself retreating into your own world, seek a friend's help to pull you back. Also balance your cerebral tendencies through physical activities like jogging, hiking, or dance.

Looking ahead: You discover who you are meant to be through accumulating insight and knowledge. So follow your curiosity. Are you drawn to learning Mandarin? Join-ing a philosophy society? Studying and practicing Buddhist meditation? Delving into the complexities of computer programming? Writing a historical book? Pursuits that place you near the leading edge of technology, science, psychology, academia, or business are good bets. But any situation that allows you to work independently with freedom to investigate and innovate will fuel your drive.

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STRIVING TO BE SECURE
You scored: 16

You are a stabilizer: You are the rock in a storm, the one others lean on. Loyal and com-mitted in your relationships, you maintain a support system of like-minded people whom you look out for. (So what if you do it behind the scenes and don't get credit?) You're careful with money, cherish the familiar, and defend the traditions you care about.

What to watch out for: Rapidly changing environments (like a shaky economy) are very hard for you. As a result of such instability, you can spiral into a state where everything seems catastrophic and you're sure life will only get worse. You can also become overcontrolling, rejecting any suggestion that doesn't conform to your idea of the way things should be. To avoid being too rigid, each month try changing one habit. Exper-iment with clothes, drive a different way to work, initiate conversations about subjects you wouldn't normally discuss. And when the opportunity arises to do something new, avoid the impulse to immediately say no—this may be nerve-racking, but the more you practice, the less anxious you'll feel.

Looking ahead: You find meaning in pursuing safety and certainty. Focusing on family can give you great satisfaction. Also consider planting a vegetable garden, hosting class reunions, volunteering as a lifeguard, teaching at your church or temple. In the work arena, look for positions where you're responsible for others, and for making sure everyone is following the rules. You work well in any environment that is stable and consistent. Careers in government, finance, the military, law enforcement, and product manufacturing are strong options for you.

Find careers that match your striving style.
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STRIVING TO BE IN CONTROL
You scored: 13

You are a leader: You approach everything as though you were born to be in charge. Confident, assertive, and decisive, you know what you want and you go after it. You also look out for family, friends, and community—you feel you know what's best for them—and have no fear of confronting anyone who challenges your ideas. Taking the driver's seat, you also generously donate time and energy to people and neighborhood projects.

What to watch out for: When you feel threatened, or others refuse to go along with your agenda, you can become confrontational and domineering, sometimes to the point of being dictatorial. Practice letting someone else take charge on occasion. Also try meditation; it can help you be-come more aware of your controlling impulses and ease the anxiety that may be provoking them.

Looking ahead: You discover your purpose when you take control of your environment. For you, finding a decision-making role is key. That could mean anything from producing a play to spearheading a global campaign for something you care about. In work, you're suited for leadership positions in education, government, industry, finance, religious institutions, or politics. But you can find satisfaction anytime you're given the autonomy  to do things your own way.

Friday, July 9, 2010

Calendar of Events - Bay City Convention & Visitors Bureau

Calendar of Events - Bay City Convention & Visitors Bureau

Bay Arts Council - Fridays at the Falls

Bay Arts Council - Fridays at the Falls: "July 23 - The Toyz
A mixture of classic and contemporary rock, blues and funk has been a crowd-pleaser throughout the area for more than 25 years.


July 21            
Black Ash Basketry/ Native Fibers Demonstrations by Kelly Church
Kelly Church is a member of the Grand Traverse Band of Michigan. She is a fifth-generation Black Ash basket weaver and also works with birch bark, sweetgrass, and basswood. She will demonstrate how these materials are processed and used as the Anishnabe of Michigan would have for centuries.

July 30 - L.A.O Band
Four friends from high school make modern music together for all ages to enjoy!

August 6- The Reed Brothers
Acoustic melodic pop rock with an emphasis on original songs

August 13 - Dick Case & Friends
Cool and smooth jazz, perfect for the start of your weekend.

August 4            
Guy Louis Family Concert
Guy Lewis, a seasoned veteran with over 20 years of experience, will perform world-class music that will entertain adults and engage children in dancing and general merriment. As an expert with string instruments like guitar, mandolin, and many more, his shows are always a fun and entertaining event for all audiences.

August 18            
Chris Measzros - "The Man of 1,000 Voices"
Chris Measzros is a storyteller who engages toddlers to teens through his interactive, hands-on storytelling style. Whether telling humorus stories from his own life, or breathing life into familiar classics, Chris keeps audiences captivated with voices, sound effects, and pantomime. Audience participation enriches the experience and requested program themes have included pirates, dragons, oceans & water, spies, safaris, the old west, winter holidays, and Hawain
August 20 - Scott Baker and the Universal Expressions
A melded blend of rock, blues and jazz that make up a cool fondue of soulful blues sound.

August 27 - Josh Ramses Band
Enjoy an end of summer bash with all of you favorite songs from the last forty years. Classic fun!"

Thursday, July 1, 2010

boat ride

today a friend Donna with  her granddaughters 
and I rode  on the boat the islamder